Comments on: Why Hope Isn’t As Good As You Think It Is

By: Mallone

Mallone — Sat, 11 Dec 2010 22:53:00 +0000

This is absolutely true. Whenever I feel completely hopeless, its almost zen like.
I don’t give a damn about anything, so nothing bothers me!

By: Zoeedy

Zoeedy — Sat, 20 Nov 2010 15:58:00 +0000

‘ These are a few questions that, built up over time, helped me change my life for the better. Hoping I can make this journey easier for you, I’ve listed some of them ‘.

Can you pick out a key word in this sentence.

By: Arsene Hodali

Arsene Hodali — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 20:21:50 +0000

EXACTLY! And thanx for the kind words.

By: Arsene Hodali

Arsene Hodali — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 20:21:00 +0000

EXACTLY! And thanx for the kind words.

By: Basak

Basak — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 11:18:34 +0000

so acceptance is not to dwell on whether or not u have missed ur plane but to live with it and buy a new plane ticket. thank u. i understand now.
this site is amazing thank u for ur inspirational words. xxx

By: Basak

Basak — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 11:18:00 +0000

By: Arsene Hodali

Arsene Hodali — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 13:21:47 +0000

What you’re saying/suggesting is that without hope you’re “hopeless”. Your saying/hinting that you’ll turn pessimistic without “hope’.

I’m looking at hope from the same point of view that we look at love. The opposite of love is not hate (in this case hopelessness), the opposite of love is “indifference”.

I’m stating that the opposite of hope is in fact acceptance. Although you’ll have to experience hopelessness for a bit before reaching acceptance, you will eventually reach it.

Acceptance is different from hopelessness (what you’r saying) because it doesn’t base positive “or negative” emotions on “what will happen”. It uses past experiences to make a reasonable deduction (in this case an “expectation”) of what will happen.

Acceptance will allow you to realize that the majority of planes take off on time, but that a delay is possible. Acceptance will allow you to make leaving on time your plan A (put the majority of eggs in that basket) because past experience has shown you that they do leave on time, but it also allows you to not entirely rely on it. Acceptance will allow you to realize that it’s not the end of the world, and that there are other options. There are other baskets you can put your eggs in.

Hope I clarified things for you.

By: Arsene Hodali

Arsene Hodali — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 13:21:00 +0000

What you’re saying/suggesting is that without hope you’re “hopeless”. Your saying/hinting that you’ll turn pessimistic without “hope’.

I’m looking at hope from the same point of view that we look at love. The opposite of love is not hate (in this case hopelessness), the opposite of love is “indifference”.

I’m stating that the opposite of hope is in fact acceptance. Although you’ll have to experience hopelessness for a bit before reaching acceptance, you will eventually reach it.

Hope I clarified things for you.

By: Basak

Basak — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 12:03:00 +0000

i disagree with almost everything you say there. without hope u dont dare dream because then ur like ‘well it probably not going to happen so why waste my time’ hence the hopelessness. so u dont even TRY. yes bad things do happen, and while u hope u do accept that in the back of ur head ur flight may be canceled but you dont just ACCEPT something that hasnt even happened, because then u wud be trying to control it just like u said hope does.
hoping is believing it might actually happen.
are u telling me not to believe?
because hope is the extension of belief wouldnt u agree? u hope u will get better from sickness, u BELIEVE. it will be ok.
do u see what i mean?

By: Basak

Basak — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 12:03:00 +0000