To deal with shame is to deal with pride. Shame stems directly from it. This is why when people say, “Have you no shame?” what they really mean is, “Have you no pride?”
To deal with shame you must realize it is the symptom, not the disease, and to then act accordingly. Acting accordingly, the best way to deal with pride is to, quoting Ann Landers, continuously remind yourself that your dog’s admiration isn’t conclusive evidence that you’re wonderful. There are many dogs.
You’ve dealt with it, them, when you can comfortably answer, “No, I have no pride. Thank you for asking.” And, as necessary counterpoint, be aware that though it is better to have too little than too much of, complete lack of either is not necessarily good.