Date Rape - NO Means NO!

What is date Rape?

When someone you know--a date, boyfriend, or casual friend-- forces you to have sex.

Statistics

• A woman is assaulted by forced sexual intercourse every 17 minutes in Canada.

• A woman is sexually assaulted in many other ways every 6 minutes.

• Sexual assault happens to 1 in 4 Canadian women at some point in their lives.

• Nearly 50% of all assailants who force women into sexual intercourse are married or living common-law at the time of the assault and are considered responsible members of the community.

•  49% of all sexual assaults and 18% of sexual assaults involving forced sexual intercourse occur in broad daylight. 

• 62% of victims of assault involving forced sexual intercourse are physically injured in the attack; 9% are beaten severely; 12% are threatened with a weapon; 70% experience verbal threats.

• Studies reveal that only 1 in 10 sexual assaults are reported to police.

• 20.2% of female students said they gave into unwanted sexual intercourse because they were overwhelmed by a man’s continued arguments and pressure. 

http://www.uvss.uvic.ca/avp/statistics.htm

Myths

Rape is committed by crazed strangers.
A woman that gets raped deserves it, especially if she agreed to go to the man’s house or a ride in his car.
Women who don’t fight back haven’t been raped.
If there is no gun or knife, you haven’t been raped.
It’s not really rape if the victim isn’t a virgin.
If a woman lets a man buy her dinner or pay for a movie or drinks, she owes him sex.
Agreeing to kiss or neck with a man means that a women has agreed to have sex with him.
When men are sexually aroused, they need to have sex or they will get “blue balls”.

Reality

Most women are raped by “normal” acquaintances.
No one, male or female, deserves to be raped. Being in a man’s house or car does not mean a woman has agreed to have sex with him.
You have been raped when you are forced to have sex against your will, whether you fight back or not.
It’s rape whether there are weapons or not, you own diminished physical or mental state, the weight of his body to overcome you.
Rape is rape, even if the woman isn’t a virgin, even if she is willingly had sex with the same man before.
No one owes sex as a payment to anyone else, no matter how expensive the date.
Everyone has the right to say “no” to sexual activity, regardless of what has proceeded it and to have the “no” respected.
Men don’t physically need to have sex after becoming aroused anymore than women do. Men are still able to control themselves even after becoming sexually excited

What to look for and How to protect your self!! 

• Keep your drink with you or with a good friend that you can trust.

• Watch how the people are acting around you – does any thing look specious.

• Don’t accept open drinks.

• Don’t party alone, have someone with you to make sure nothing happens.

• Have you heard street names of the drugs mentioned in other people’s conversations?

• There is a test strip like litmus paper, to test you drinks for date rape drugs.

www.drinksafetech.com

You wake up not remembering the night before.

     Here are some signs to look for:

• Bruises or soreness in the genital area, anal area, bruises on the inner and/or outer thighs,

• Defensive bruising on your wrists and forearms

• Used condoms, traces of semen or vaginal fluids on clothes, body or nearby furniture.

• Ask people about the night before, if you know you had little to drink were they saying that  you were pretty hammered.  This is a good indication that you were drugged.

• Do you feel that you had very real dreams?

What do you do now?

• Get help!

• Try not to urinate or wash or change your cloths before getting help, you might destroy evidence of your rape

• Being raped may mean that you could have gotten pregnant, a std or even aids,

• Go to your Dr. or clinic and get tested

•  Get professional guidance to help you though any emotional or mental trauma that you may have.

http://teenadvice.about.com/library/weekly/aa062502a.htm

http://www.4woman.gov/faq/rohypnol.htm#6

Every one has different experiences after being raped:

• Emotional trauma is a very common result of being raped – please get help

• Fear -of being alone, of men

• Problems having a normal sexual relationship

• Depression

• Not being able to trust

• Diseases - stds, aids

• Physical symptoms of stress

• Embarrassed

• Guilt

• Denial

http://www.geocities.com/buttaluv08/effects.html

Date Rape Drugs - What is out there.

     Rohypnol 

Rophy, Ruffles, Roofies, Ruffies, Ruff Up, Rib, Roach 2, R2, R2-Do-U, Roche, Rope, Ropies, Circles, Circes, Forget It, Forget-Me-pill, Mexican Valium.

The pills are small and white with a split-pill line on one side and the word "ROCHE" with the number 1 or 2 in a circle stamped on the other. They are quickly dissolved in liquid especially when crushed first.

Gamma Hydroxy Butyrate (GHB)

    

Easy Lay, EZ Lay, Liquid Ecstasy, Ellie, Clear X, Liquid X, X-rater, XTC, Chemical X, Liquid Dream, Scoop, Scoop Her, Get-Her-to-Bed.

It looks exactly like water.

 

Ketamine Hydrochloride

 

Special K, Super K, K, OK, KO, Vitamin K, Kid Rock, Ket Kat, Make-Her-Mine.

In undiluted form it looks like an off-white powder, in diluted form it looks like slightly cloudy water.

Ecstasy  

                                Adam, XTC, E

http://www.4woman.gov/faq/rohypnol.htm#1

http://www.odos.uiuc.edu/women/date_rape_drugs.asp

Help is out there.

CHIMO (24 Hours) - 1-800-667-5005

Community Health Centre - 632-5537

Community Mental Health Services - 658-3737

Health & Community Services - 658-2734
after 4:30 or weekends - 1-800-442-9799

Hestia House - 634-7570

Police ( emergencies only ) - 911

Hampton RCMP - 832-5566

Community Health Centre                    632-5537

Community Mental Health Services      658-3737

Health Community Services                  658-2734  After Hours or weekends 1-800-442-9799

Rothesay Regional Police                      847-6300

Saint John Police Force                         Daytime 648-3303   Evening 648-3333

Saint John Regional Hospital                  648-6000

St. Joseph's Regional Hospital               632-5555

Community Health Center - CHC
116 Coburg Street
Local:   632-5537
c/o St. Joseph's Hospital
E-mail:[email protected]
Saint John, NB
E2L 3K1

Public Health - Dept. Health and Wellness
Mercantile Center
Local:  658-2454
55 Union Street
PO Box 93
Saint John, NB
E2L 3X1

http://www.emergency.com/roofies.htm

http://www.satcontario.com/help/

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