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Has Our Freedom To Be Sexual Turned To Pressure To Be Sexual?

Everything around us in our current culture seems to in one way or another to talk, hint, and scream sex. And probably mostly due to this we have changed into a more sexually liberal society. Which isn’t bad; we have shown today’s youth that it’s not wrong to have “such feelings” and that they are “natural”. We have shown today’s youth that we are available to not only answer their questions on life, love, etc. but on sex too. For example, parents today have shown their young that they are willing to talk about these subjects, because they’d rather they talk to them, that go out and do something stupid because they were uninformed.

Speaking of informing, here’s a thought provoking fact for you: “95% of Americans have premarital sex; 95% of American’s have been having premarital sex since the 1940s. There’s been no change.” But wait, if that’s true for both now and the 1940s , what’s the difference between our cultures?

Well… freedom. We can now freely talk about subjects such as sex, without the consequences of the 1940s. I would have never learnt that 95% of Americans have premarital sex if it wasn’t for this freedom, and you would have never learnt it if it wasn’t for me having the freedom to write about it now.

But, we have not only gained freedom to verbally talk about sex, we have gained more freedom in showing acts of sex and affection. Show PDA in the 1940s and you better run for cover, but show it now and people just walk by… just another regular sight. Seeing all this now you think that practically everyone is having sex (they are), but what about the few, the oh so few, who aren’t having sex?

Wouldn’t you think that a culture where practically everyone is having sex would have some effect (intentionally and unintentionally) on these few? For instance, ask yourself “What would a teenager take away from watching a movie such as The 40 year-old Virgin?” …Answer, that you’re not supposed to be a virgin at 40, it’s just not normal. And to a teen whose sole mission in life is to be accepted (be normal), the solution to that acceptance is pretty clear for them… Just have sex… and as quickly as possible.

I guess the question is not “have we created sexual pressure by allowing sexual freedom?” … In my opinion the answer is yes.

The real question is

“Is sexual pressure a necessary drawback of sexual freedom?”


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  1. Kmoevven says:
    05.20.11 at 4:36 am · Reply

     i just came across this article (during my research of polyphasic sleep schedules, which i really want to try), and thought you have a great way of writing. very thought-provoking, and i completely agree with your message. Even those who aren’t sexually active feel the pressure to be so. 
    So in reality, are we more or less free?

    • Arsene Hodali says:
      05.22.11 at 1:18 am · Reply

      Exactly!

  2. Dr. Said says:
    01.18.11 at 9:47 am · Reply

    Hi Man! Nice Post!

    • Arsene Hodali says:
      02.14.11 at 10:48 pm · Reply

      Thank you man.

  3. Grokodile says:
    01.10.10 at 7:23 pm · Reply

    I don’t think the freedoms in society create the pressures… they just affect whether or not it is hidden.

    Sex is something that is innate in us. It will be expressed whether or not society “allows” it.

    • Arsene Hodali says:
      01.10.10 at 10:35 pm · Reply

      Yah, I get that. But question is has the “allowance” of it forced people to recognize their innate sexuality too soon?

  4. Grokodile says:
    01.11.10 at 12:23 am · Reply

    I don’t think the freedoms in society create the pressures… they just affect whether or not it is hidden.

    Sex is something that is innate in us. It will be expressed whether or not society “allows” it.

    • Arsene Hodali says: (Author)
      01.11.10 at 3:35 am · Reply

      Yah, I get that. But question is has the “allowance” of it forced people to recognize their innate sexuality too soon?

  5. pharmacy technician says:
    01.06.10 at 1:03 am · Reply

    nice post. thanks.

  6. pharmacy technician says:
    01.06.10 at 6:03 am · Reply

    nice post. thanks.

  7. tja says:
    01.04.10 at 2:10 pm · Reply

    if you improved your spelling and grammar, i might have gotten to the end of this article.

    a few tips:
    -but what about the few, the oh so few, that isn’t having sex? (that isn’t? how about WHO AREN’T)
    -who’s sole mission (WHOSE)

    • Arsene Hodali says:
      01.04.10 at 2:58 pm · Reply

      Thank you for the spell check, greatly appreciated.

      And thank you for at least reading 98% of it. Most people don’t read that far.

  8. tja says:
    01.04.10 at 7:10 pm · Reply

    if you improved your spelling and grammar, i might have gotten to the end of this article.

    a few tips:
    -but what about the few, the oh so few, that isn’t having sex? (that isn’t? how about WHO AREN’T)
    -who’s sole mission (WHOSE)

    • Arsene Hodali says: (Author)
      01.04.10 at 7:58 pm · Reply

      Thank you for the spell check, greatly appreciated.

      And thank you for at least reading 98% of it. Most people don’t read that far.

  9. Brett - DareToExpress.com says:
    01.01.10 at 8:49 pm · Reply

    Hey Arsene,

    I think that the opposite has happened: I think people are freer to talk about sex in general, but are a little uncomfortable with their sexuality (particularly in men). So maybe this is the result of the sexual pressure that’s been created – but, overall, a lot of guys (I don’t know about girls) are uncomfortable with expressing their sexual desires, particularly around girls they find attractive. It’s an interesting conundrum and has a lot to do with society’s liberalism towards sex while simultaneously condemning personal sexuality.

    • Arsene Hodali says:
      01.01.10 at 9:29 pm · Reply

      Brett- First of all, I like your domain name, something more people should do.

      Surprisingly (in a good way), it’s like an extension on the post.

  10. Brett says:
    01.02.10 at 1:49 am · Reply

    Hey Arsene,

    I think that the opposite has happened: I think people are freer to talk about sex in general, but are a little uncomfortable with their sexuality (particularly in men). So maybe this is the result of the sexual pressure that’s been created – but, overall, a lot of guys (I don’t know about girls) are uncomfortable with expressing their sexual desires, particularly around girls they find attractive. It’s an interesting conundrum and has a lot to do with society’s liberalism towards sex while simultaneously condemning personal sexuality.

    • Arsene Hodali says: (Author)
      01.02.10 at 2:29 am · Reply

      Brett- First of all, I like your domain name, something more people should do.

      Surprisingly (in a good way), it’s like an extension on the post.

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